Monday, September 17, 2012

Book Blogger Confessions #16

Book Blogger Confessions is a new meme hosted by Midnyte Reader and For What It's Worth. You can find out all about it here.

Every second week there is one topic that has something to do with book-blogging that you can discuss on your blog.

This week's topic is: Blogger relations: Are there blogs you visit and comment on because you like their style, voice etc. (maybe you even converse with the blogger on Twitter & Facebook) but those comments are never reciprocated on your blog? Do you get a bit offended or do you understand that they may be busy? Or do you comment just because you like a post not expecting anything in return?

Generally, I don't visit blogs or leave comments in order to get visits or comments on my own blog. I read other blogs because I like reading about books - that's the only reason, really. I've never really commented on memes and left a link to my own meme post, or any of that commenting-in-order-to-leave-your-link stuff because I feel like that's forcing people to read your blog, which I don't want to do. (Also, I'm too lazy.)

That doesn't mean, though, that I never get disappointed because my favorite bloggers don't read my blog. I read blogs that show a taste similar in books to mine, and I assume others do, too. So I figure that if I like their taste in books, they'd probably like mine, too. There are lots of blogs that I read all the time and comment on regularly (well, not so much right now, because I'm super-busy and failing at commenting. But in general...), and it does sometimes make me sad that, as far as I know, they don't read mine. Especially when it's someone I talk to on Twitter, etc., so I can be sure they know I exist.

But I try not to let it get to me. People are busy; that's just the way it is. A lot of the blogs I read are bigger blogs; they get loads of comments from faithful readers, and I'm just one of them. Of course they don't have the time to read all of our blogs. My blog isn't all that big, but I already couldn't comment back for every comment I get. I try to tell myself that the fact that they've never left a comment doesn't necessarily mean they've never read a post of mine; I read without commenting all the time. And even though it's hard, I think we just have to accept that not everyone will like our blogs. Even if we have the same taste in books, that blogger I like might just not like my blog that much, for whatever reason. And that's fine - you can't please everyone. I just try to be thankful for the people who do read and comment regularly!

What about you - how do you deal with bloggers you love not stopping by your blog?


  1. I love the way you think about commenting :) I could learn a thing or two - as long as we are having fun, that's all that really matters!

  2. you're very diplomatic :)
    I like interaction so I prefer it when visitors leave a comment. It's not like I make it difficult for them to comment. I don't have captcha enabled for one. I know that's one of the most annoying thing to bloggers (including me).

    Anyways, as I said on my post, I used to have a blogger friend where I comment on her blog but she never visited mine. So, I just stopped commenting and visiting unless there's something interesting that I see. I don't take it too personally. I just find a new blogger friend to chat with :)

    My favorite bloggers are Jen from Jen Ryland/YA Romantics and Jen from Some Like It Paranormal :)

    1. Oh, I didn't even see that you said something nice right above my comment. I swear I didn't notice that!!!!! I got here from a tweet.

  3. Yeah, I think if I spend too much time fixating on the ways people are ignoring me, I'll probably be unhappy! Still, I don't think it's too much to ask for reciprocation in comments and tweets once in a while. I do notice if a person NEVER responds at all.

  4. Your thoughts on blog commenting are exactly the same as mine. I sometimes get the "we-have-similar-taste-why-don't-they-like-me" feeling, but I can usually banish it. I would never get mad at someone for not commenting back-the various reasons not to are totally understandable.

  5. I know I should comment more, but who has the time? I visit, I appreciate & I generally move on. How rude of me!!!

  6. I love to comment on other blogs, to give them some appreciation for their time and work. But I only comment on the things that interest me, because I don't like to say something standard. So far, I'm pretty happy with the comments I get. It's not that I have like 90 on a review, but I'm growing.

  7. When I had a lot of free time I really enjoyed commenting on blogs and it felt good when people commented back. I don't mind if they don't, I just like writing about books. I do really love it when I have a fangirl moment with another blogger whom I've never talked to on twitter about books, I think it's a really awesome feeling to connect with someone like that.


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